11/09/2026
I wonder sometimes if we’ve really come as far as we think we have.
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how different the world seems from the one I grew up hearing stories about.
The days when a handshake was as good as a signature.
When somebody needed a barn fixed, a fence put back up, or a truck pulled out of a ditch, you didn’t always ask what it paid. You just went and helped.
Maybe they slipped you a few dollars. Maybe they brought you supper. Maybe you traded a day’s work for a day’s work.
Or maybe all you got was a thank you and the satisfaction of knowing you helped somebody who needed it.
And that was alright.
Neighbors knew neighbors. People sat around talking instead of staring at a screen. You could disagree with somebody and still sit down at the same table with them.
Now, I know those days weren’t perfect. And I’m not old enough to pretend I lived through all of them.
But I can’t help thinking there was something about that way of life we should’ve held onto a little tighter.
Because look at us today.
We’ve got nicer houses, faster trucks, bigger televisions, and more technology than generations before us could’ve imagined.
But we’ve also got people judging each other by the vehicles they drive, the clothes on their backs, the money in their pockets, and the opinions they hold.
We’ve got people who won’t give somebody the time of day because they don’t look, think, or live exactly like they do.
Everybody’s trying to prove they’re better than somebody else.
And I can’t help but wonder what we’re actually accomplishing.
When did we start putting a price tag on everything except the things that are truly valuable?
You can’t buy somebody’s character.
You can’t buy an honest friendship.
You can’t buy back the years you missed watching your children grow up.
And you sure can’t take any of this material stuff with you when He decides your time here is done.
I’m not writing this like I’ve got life figured out. Far from it.
I’m a young husband, a father of two, and a guy trying to build a small business into something that can support my family.
I worry about money. I get frustrated. I get caught up comparing where I’m at to where I think I should be.
And I’ll be the first to admit I need to get closer to God myself.
But the more life I live, the more I realize that success isn’t just about how much money you make or what you’ve got parked in the driveway.
It’s about the kind of person you are when nobody’s watching.
It’s about keeping your word when it would’ve been easier not to.
Helping somebody when there’s nothing in it for you.
Giving somebody a chance before deciding who they are.
And remembering that the person standing across from you has a whole life, a family, and struggles you might never know anything about.
I don’t think God put us all down here just to spend our lives trying to outdo, outspend, and outjudge one another.
And I sure don’t want my kids growing up thinking that’s what life is supposed to be about.
I want them to know that a person’s worth isn’t measured by what they own.
That you can have next to nothing and still have everything that matters.
That there’s no shame in honest work, no weakness in showing kindness, and no reason to look down on somebody who’s trying.
Because someday, all the stuff we’re working ourselves to death for will belong to somebody else.
Our trucks will rust. Our houses will change hands. Our money will be spent.
But the way we treated people? The lessons we taught our children? The times we showed up for somebody who needed us?
Those things can live on long after we’re gone.
Maybe we don’t need to go back in time. Maybe we just need to bring a little more of what mattered back into the time we’re living in.
A little more faith. A little more humility. A little more respect.
A few more handshakes that actually mean something.
And a whole lot more love for our neighbors.
Because at the end of the day, there’s a verse that says it better than I ever could.
“For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?” — Mark 8:36 (KJV)